OPINIONS

Love and Sex …

By Hala Elbanna

Actually, the issue of love and sex is a vital concern to mankind. It is no taboo, but a legal right.

Man has always complicated matters; loved to trash the codes of the Lord, tailor his instead. Then, blame others for his failure!

But wait, wait he calls his failure success! No wonder, man is in a dilemma.

Love and sex under the umbrella of “Marriage” is the most sacred, blessed, balanced, healthy relationship ever on this planet. And I mean the old definition of “Marriage,” “Man and Woman” present in all religions. After all it was “Adam and Eve.” Not Adam and Adam! Not Eve and Eve! Simply, because The Lord intended it that way for the best of mankind.

Same-sex marriage is a result of a great imbalance in our MODERN SOCIETIES as human beings failed drastically to abide by the LORD’S Natural Laws to how men and women should unite under the most sacred institution ever on our planet. Instead of trying to mend what was broken between those two sexes, they chose to run away, hide, find a partner from the same sex under the illusion of “never gonna be hurt again,” “trying to find pleasure in a new endeavor,” or simply “refusing to get treatment when needed.”

So, on a personal level, I believe there is no need to philosophize what is already so apparent to the naked eye, the brain as well!

If one loves truly, he desires his partner sexually, spiritually and wholly. Yes, of course one needn’t be looking for any more potential mate for one has supposedly found his match and the search should immediately halt.

In our Arab culture, unfortunately, a modern streak of blind imitation has leaked into a community where the youth and the mid-aged are so fascinated by the so called “sexual freedom” in the West; they indulge in physical waste, excessive sex practices from what they view on a daily basis in the media. “Extra-marital sex” or “no sex” is the spread nowadays!

They could’ve easily picked up on the positive issues of the western culture, their punctuality, seriousness, persistence, perseverance, right for self-determination, but this was by far the case. Unfortunately, the result is a society that has lost identity.

It is Man who bred that shame culture to his community, not religion, not God.

Man with his so-called tailored tradition that has nothing to do with religion.

Man with his sophisticated ideas about “freedom.”

One doesn’t have to go naked in the street to prove that he’s different!

Man doesn’t have to go seeking sex outside the borders of marriage to prove “modern!”

Man doesn’t have to have premarital sex and call that “cool!”

Man has no right whatsoever to try his partner out sexually under “we might not be compatible after marriage so, I’ve gotta try that out!”

Well, there are a lot of cases who tried that out and guess what? It usually ends up in a disaster! Either one of the partner dies, or is later diagnosed with a serious disease, or simply divorce. So, surprise! Premarital sex was not proved to be the cure, nor offered the magical equation!

The illusion that has been woven around the “freedom of sex outside the legitimate borders,” “extra-marital sex” and “same-sex marriage” equals that of someone who gets high on drugs. Reality holds something totally different. Only people who like to cheat on themselves are convinced totally with those man-made rules that guarantee total failure.

Ms. Hala Elbanna, the winner of the International Poets award is an international correspondent for The Ambassadors Magazine. She is the author of three new poetry books. Her email is dalou@excite.com.